Trip to the Tenement Museum and Final Project Development Continued…
This week, the class went to the Tenement Museum. I’d already visited earlier this semester for Nancy’s Cabinets of Wonder class, here is my write-up. I joined the class after for a post trip discussion:
Post Tenement Museum Discussion
It was interesting to hear how different people responded to the tour, some found it quite a personal experience as they fel they understood a little more about their grandparents who lived in tenements when they first emigrated to NYC. Others were slightly disappointed, in the sense that they didn’t feel they’d had their questions answered sufficiently. In terms of storytelling done by a museum, I still find the Tenement Museum in a class of it’s own.
Final Project Further Development
Preliminary Thoughts on Memory and Storytelling Paper
1) Introduction
Following trauma, we are encouraged to give the narrative of the traumatic events, combined with attempting to express how we feel as a result of these events, whether this is done on a psychiatrist’s couch, within a group or as part of a wider community. We also tell stories to remember, to commemorate but initially, the purpose is simple: to get the trauma out of our bodies: out of our heads and our hearts, that in the process of telling, and sharing, there is understanding – not just in telling other people, but also, to attempt to make sense of something ourselves. One way of thinking of it, is to quantify the pain inside us, these powerful feelings may, through verbalizing, may become in way anchored, the telling is a method to understand what actually happened.
As years pass, we are further removed from the trauma by time, and so the story that we articulate, when first told, often with extreme pain, and fear, becomes the memory that we carry, forever. We never forget. It doesn’t matter how much therapy, how many pills, how much meditation. Unless we have a chunk of our brains lopped off, our memories are always with us. And come back in sometimes the most unexpected times, or places, triggered by the seemingly craziest things. They are ours.
In the sense of dealing with trauma, this is the limit of the healing power of telling a story, because the memory will always be there. Not to be flippant in discussing such weighty matters, but an ex-boyfriend said to me once as we were breaking up, “I can forgive, but I cannot forget.”
That one sentence summarizes the limits of memory. Our memory of events is what it is – it is what actually happened, and it did happen. Sadly, we cannot turn back time, words cannot be unspoken, acts cannot be undone. You can’t re-write history. No matter how much regret or remorse are shown by perpetrators.
In understanding the limits of memory, the question becomes, how do you manage these memories. How do they stop being our principle driver in our lives, how does the pain of the memory when recollected not drive our actions in a destructive sense? [cf. how does the comparison of idolizing a dead person ie choosing to remember the best bits – is it suppression? Or is there the concept of selective remembering?]
2) Description of what happens after the memory is formed: moving on
Individuals
Our instinctive responses form the first part of healing from the trauma. Some of the examples in this paper are genuinely awe inspiring, such as when I first was told of them, and then went home to follow up more, I was moved. [Cite example of Ubuntu in South Africa. Contrast with other world-views on healing/revenge/justice eg eye for an eye, love unto others as they do to you. Compare/contrast].
Governmental/Legal Redress/Compensation/Justice
There are further attempts, to heal after injustice. Often legal methods for redress, justice. [Give examples of TRC and restorative justice in SA, contrast with more traditional? concepts eg Khmer Rouge Tribunal in Cambodia – is it criminal or are civil penalties enough – look for other examples, consider Nuremberg].
Communities
Communities [consider inserting above justice section] such as Northern Ireland post troubles – Hillary Clinton etc meeting with women in tea shops. Does it really work or is it just a few minorities eg case of Jewish/Palestinian Israeli olive oil makers – and is it really impossible when a whole generation is prejudiced, mindset, the memories are stronger than the new reality?
Glue Figures/Respected Voices
Key figures to respect – cherished on both sides? Or if not cherished, respected enough, Mandela, Peres? How far can they go?
3) Problems to look at in this paper: What Next? It’s not enough right now. Looking at 2 aspects: creating dialog and secondly, improving quality of life.
All of the above is very good, but how long can it hold the strength of the memory, how do you neuter the power of the crippling pain of the memory after the initial hope following a regime change dies away? Not just in a bigger scenario to quell the desire for revenge that could lead to destruction of a nation, eg civil war, or uprising of a previously suppressed minority (SA, Iraqis) but on an individual level, how to you make peace between individuals?
How do you begin communication between people from different sides following a repression or battle? Is it by further the further telling of the stories to promote understanding and empathy – to humanize each other, how do we do that? How do the memorials built do that effectively (eg Freedom Park).
This paper suggests though, its all potentially fruitless if people’s lives don’t improve, because although the terror aspect of the memory may no longer be reality, if life is still full of injustice, its hard to place the memory into the past, because to some extent, it is not a memory, but a reality.
What else do we need to do? Are remembrance and commemoration enough? This paper argues it is not, because if nothing else has really changed in people’s quality of life, or their view of others, then the memory is still the overriding stage setting – the scene that people live in within their heads and their hearts. How do we improve dialog, communication? Are the keys increased opportunities, and economic improvement? Does a healthy economy and wealth trickling down to the wronged, and also to the perpetrators (insecurity in a new regime will breed a sense of longing for the past), will this help people to move on?
Memories are always there, but the bad memories can be put into the background if the reality of life is reinforcing positive progress. Even with improved quality of life, the limit is still there, “I can forgive, but I cannot forget.” Memory itself is the limit. With that absolute constraint, how do we progress, as individuals and a collective following a period of intense trauma?
I keep returning to communication. Dialog breathes life into the seeds of understanding, or, if understanding is impossible in some cases due to such polar viewpoints and irreconcilable differences, by communication, the boundaries are defined, which is helpful to at least begin to attempt progress.










